By nature I am not a political animal.
However, in response to a challenge by my good friend, Patricia Volonakis Davis, I wrote an article for Harlot's Sauce Magazine (A non-partisan Internet publication), which can be read HERE.
I'd appreciate hearing your views.
rg
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
The Elder
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It was a beautiful morning in Las Vegas, and I was sitting inside St. Arbuck’s—the reasoning for being inside now escapes me given the pleasant temperature—reading the morning paper and savoring each sip of my medium coffee with room for cream.
Sinatra was belting out, “All Of Me” on the in-store sound system; people all around me were engaged in collegial conversation; and everyone’s mood seemed a bit lighter due to the fact that all of us had survived yet another summer.
Hey...it’s a big deal here in Vegas!
If you’ve never spent a summer here (which, for the record, begins in May and lasts well into October) then you probably don’t know what I’m talking about; but if you have...then can I get an, “Oy!”
The young man seemed nervous.
Not nervous in the sense of being concerned, but more like an anxious anticipation.
By the looks of him, he was in his early twenties; well dressed in that funky, hipster style where the clothing looks as if it came from a thrift store, but actually cost a bundle.
He stood there staring through the windows at the parking lot and frequently, almost obsessively checking his cell phone.
That he was awaiting the arrival of someone important was obvious.
As to who that someone was...I automatically assumed it was a woman.
I mean a young, handsome guy like him...it made sense.
A car drove slowly into the lot, pulling into a handicapped space right by the front door.
I’m thinking, Well, good for him. He’s got some substance to him if he’s dating a girl with disabilities.
His face broke into a wide smile of recognition and he quickly exited the store to stand on the sidewalk in front of the car.
What happened next surprised me, for it was not a young beauty who emerged, but a white-haired elder who was likely somewhere north of eighty.
The brightness of his smile matched that of the young man as they engaged in a warm and affectionate embrace, the old man patting the young man’s back and kissing him on each smooth cheek.
He stepped back, held the young man at arm’s length and mouthed something like, “You look good” before they turned to make their way inside.
Once through the door the elderly gentleman immediately spied a young father sitting at a table with a boy of about two.
He obviously knew the man, for a similar scene was played out with the hug, the backslapping and cheek kissing.
Added to that was the old man pretending to steal part of the child’s pastry, which produced loud protest accompanied by gales of laughter from the little boy.
After several minutes of, “How’ve you been? You okay? You making it alright since the divorce?” and other questions of concern directed at the young father, he said, “Call me when you need to. You know you can call me, right?” All of which was spoken with a thick Long Island accent in a voice that brought to mind tones of deep, burnished mahogany.
Eventually he and his young friend collected their coffees and found a table in close proximity to mine.
Not only had I been wrong in my original assumption of who that young man had been waiting for, I soon realized that my second guess was wrong as well...for this was not his grandfather, but a cherished elder.
Elders. They are in short supply in our society.
We seem to have many mentors...but so few true “elders.”
And this man was a true elder.
A father.
As I observed their interaction, the level of respect and honor shown to this ancient by that youngster was nearly startling to behold within the context of what I have come to expect in our culture.
Were you to only cast a casual glance in the young man’s direction, you would see the clothes, the ragged hair, the extensive tattooing and be tempted to surmise that he, like others of his peer group, have no time for one such as this older man.
And yet, there they were—the young man hanging on his every word.
The old man caught my eye, smiled and said, “And how are you doing this morning, young fella?” (Which actually came out, “’N how-a you doon dis moah-ning, young fella?”)
Young fella. I immediately liked this guy. “I’m doing just fine, sir. Enjoying the friendship you two share.”
He chuckled, slapped the young man on the shoulder and said, “This here is my boy. His grandfather—my best friend—passed on a couple of years back, and ever since me and him have been great friends. Isn’t that right, Scotty?”
Scotty turned partly in his chair. “That’s right. Old Joe here is responsible for keeping me straight—keeping me headed toward my dreams.” His accent was every bit as thick as Joe’s.
I smiled, and said, “Nice to meet you both,” and went back to what I had been doing when they walked in, which wasn’t much of anything at all.
The line stuck in my head, though: Headed toward my dreams. And it made me wonder how many of us have people in our lives who are dedicated to keeping us moving in the direction of our dreams.
Probably not many.
But that’s what elders are supposed to do—create an environment where their ceiling is our floor. And I could tell that that was exactly what Old Joe was doing for Scotty.
When I finally left sometime later, there they were, still hunched over the table engaging in life transference.
It made me glad to be the age I am—glad I have a few “Scotty’s” who see me as that elder in their lives.
As I got into my car it occurred to me that I had never felt so young.
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Saturday Morning Musings
The direction of your feet determines the end of your journey.
It's something I've found myself pondering frequently over the past couple of weeks.
Not sure why.
Probably because of all the people in my world who are experiencing less than satisfying circumstances.
But circumstances should never determine your outcome.
Nor should they dictate your direction in life.
As great as the temptation is to just give up and be swept along by the flood, how about starting your own flood?
A flood of positive declaration that you WILL NOT be denied!
Someone once said that if you can't be killed, and you can't be bought...you can't be stopped.
Don't let life kill your dreams, and refuse to buy in to the lie that the outcome is predetermined.
Set your face like flint into the wind and go forward with confidence.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
The Loudtalker
“You don’t understand...I don’t have that much time! If I have to wait until then I’ll lose everything!”
The man’s loud and strident voice cut through the early morning calm of St. Arbuck’s with all the subtlety of a bullhorn in a library.
He was a well-dressed fellow of middle age, his clean-shaven scalp gleaming above a face marked by intelligent eyes and neatly trimmed moustache. That he was under stress was evident by the sheen of perspiration he randomly, absently, wiped from his brow.
Fingering a Bluetooth device that seemed to be uncomfortably suspended from his right ear, he continued even more loudly, “I’ve put everything I have into this business. I can’t lose it! I just can’t!”
My beloved, whose back was to the man, looked up from her morning Sudoku puzzle, arched her brows and mouthed, “Wow!”
I heard one of the young mothers at a nearby table mumble something to the effect that the man needed to learn how to use his “inside voice.”
“So, you’re telling me there’s no chance?” he inquired, his voice cracking a little on the last word.
The man’s eyes darted rapidly left and right, left and right...over and over in a crazy, stuttering rhythm as his body sought release from the terrible stress of the moment.
“Assets?” he barked. “My assets are tied up in my company!” He seemed to be listening and then said, “My house? Oh, that’s a good one! My house is worth even less than my company which isn’t worth anything at all!”
A look of concern colored my beloved’s lovely face as she whispered, “I feel really sorry for him, but I wish he wouldn’t talk so loudly.”
I thought about that for a few moments before saying, “I know, but sometimes desperate times produce a desperate cry.”
She nodded her head thoughtfully as if considering my statement.
The man swore...an expletive relating to bovine fecal matter. “You guys are all the same! You make a big deal about being there for people, but when it comes right down to it you’re only in it to line your own pockets. Worthless bastards!”
He now leaned with his forehead resting in his right hand; index finger tap, tap, tapping almost spastically against the top of his head.
If you want to know the truth, it broke my heart to see him like that; a once proud businessman broken under the wheels of an unforeseen economy.
“What am I supposed to do now?” he muttered, seemingly as much to himself as to the individual on the other end of the call.
Slowly, very deliberately he removed the Bluetooth from his ear, his finger hovering dramatically over the cell phone before stabbing downward and ending the call while the other party was still speaking.
With a sigh torn from the depths of an obviously tortured soul he leaned his chair back on two legs; hands covering his eyes...lips moving wordlessly. Looking to his left through the window and out onto the busy streets of Ocean Beach he seemed to track the passing pedestrian traffic as if silently judging that none were as unfortunate as he, and resenting each and every one of them for it.
Letting his chair fall forward the front legs connected loudly with the tile floor causing one of the two young mothers to utter a startled yelp and glare at him in obvious offense.
He opened his laptop; closed it; opened it; closed it and then opened it again staring vacuously at the screen for a few moments before closing it for good.
The cell phone vibrated loudly on the tabletop...once, twice, three times as he sat immobile, staring in obvious indecision.
He finally picked it up, uttering a world-weary, “Hello?”
Listening in a sort of vanquished indifference he swept his eyes around the room, making contact with mine briefly and then tracking onward.
Suddenly, he was completely focused on the conversation.
“Well, sure; I could do that. I mean I have my tools in the truck and it’d be no trouble to—“
Cradling the phone between his shoulder and ear, he quickly stuffed the computer into a backpack that had been hanging off the back of his chair.
“Well, obviously I’ll have to get eyes-on to give you a definite price, but I guarantee you’ll be able to afford me.” This was accompanied by a nervous chuckle as he listened in silence for a few more seconds, nodding his head frequently before replying, “Okay. Text me your address and I’ll be there as soon as I can.” A brief pause and then, “Thank-you for this. You have no idea how much it...right. I know. He’s a good friend, and I’ll try to live up to his hype.”
When the call ended the man stared at his phone, smiled a crooked little smile, gave his head a shake and said in his loud voice, “Well, you just never know what’s gonna turn up.”
He took one last glance through the window at the living mosaic of busy people passing by, all with somewhere important to be—a purpose behind their comings and goings—and I could tell from his body language that he had flipped the switch.
He too had somewhere important to be.
Purpose.
His countenance was transformed.
Slinging the backpack over his shoulder he exited the store and was immediately solicited by a homeless youngster sitting dejectedly on the sidewalk.
He smiled and gave the kid some money.
Friday, September 9, 2011
OB Funkadelic
It was a perfect, late summer afternoon in the OB (that’s Ocean Beach to the uninitiated among you).
Surfers were shredding the waves; on the beach teenaged boys and girls vied for the best position on the sand that would afford the greatest opportunity for interaction with the opposite sex; businessmen and women sat on the seawall staring with unveiled envy; and inside St. Arbuck’s I breathed in and out, content to simply be alive on such a beautiful day.
My position next to the large, open rollup windows lining the front of the shop afforded me an unobstructed view of the main beach and lifeguard station.
A middle-aged couple exited the store, sat down at one of the bistro tables on the sidewalk and, in a comedic scene worthy of primetime television, promptly spilled not one, but both of their mango smoothies.
At first their faces registered horror and then disbelief as they stared incomprehensibly at the sidewalk and the pooling remains of their drinks.
He looked at her; she looked at him; and then they both burst out laughing at their misfortune.
I mean, why not...it was funny!
On his way inside to borrow a mop and wet towel he said to me in passing, “What’s really funny is that we did exactly same thing last week!”
“Well,” I replied, “Practice makes perfect.”
I could tell he didn’t think that was quite as funny as I did.
I get that a lot.
Anyway...
While he and his wife cleaned up the sticky mess my ears picked up a sound that was almost stunning within the context.
It was a familiar sound—one with which I had been intimately acquainted for much of my life.
It was the sound of a drummer and bass player laying down some raw yet serious funk!
I stood up and craned my neck in every direction in a futile attempt to locate the source.
Walking outside and past the still chuckling couple I spotted a red, classic 1964 Chevy Van parked next to the curb across the street, its side doors opened onto the grassy area adjacent to the lifeguard tower.
On the sidewalk next to the van two young men, dressed in vintage black suits, white shirts and skinny black ties, sporting black Ray-Ban Wayfarers were working out a heavy groove.
The drum kit was basic—kick, snare and hihat; the smallish bass amp was plugged into the van’s cigarette lighter; the Fender Jazz Bass looked as if it had been dragged behind the van all the way from wherever they had originated; but, oh, my gosh...could those young men play!
They were good!
No, they were better than good...they were amazing!
I hurried across the street and took up a proximate position, along with a dozen or so other music lovers, and listened to them work their magic.
And magic it was!
Think P-Funk.
Think Sly and the Family Stone.
Think The Bar-Kays.
Think The Ohio Players.
In other words, those two young men were definitely putting some stank on it—pure improvisation at its best.
One groove flowed seamlessly into the next and before I realized it, thirty minutes had passed.
They worked the final groove into a thundering crescendo, tagging the end theatrically and bringing their performance to a conclusion.
And the crowd went wild.
Literally!
The whole scene was so unusual in that setting as to be nearly surreal.
One could almost imagine that those two guys had been sent down from the funk gods for no other reason than to add a bit of musical whimsy to brighten our dull, ordinary lives.
I talked to them for a few minutes while they packed up and learned that the bass player, an old friend and former bandmate of the drummer, had just moved back to town and they were working on forming sort of a neo-funk band.
I gave them a tip—a really good tip, for which they were profoundly grateful—wished them well and went on my way.
Back inside St. Arbuck’s it occurred to me that musicians—whether they be young, old, or in-between—basically just want to play and will do so wherever an audience can be found.
They’ll even play for nothing should the occasion demand it for it’s passion that drives them.
I know this passion well, for it has driven me for most of my life.
It’s not a passion to make money (much to my beloved’s chagrin) but a passion to make music...to free the creative gift within and see that gift touch others.
I suppose that was what I found so satisfying about the performance I’d just witnessed...they were just there to play. The fact that I, or any of the others for that matter, demonstrated our appreciation monetarily was beside the point.
I found that the experience turned me philosophical.
I know, shocking, right?
Friday, August 26, 2011
Interrupted
But, that’s another story.
I was already late for class—a reality that would, sadly haunt me throughout my collegiate career. College for me was, well, an interruption. I had things to do if I was going to achieve my goal of being a famous recording artist. And I wasn’t about to let something as trivial as education stand in the way of that!
With a student population of only seven hundred, I had already met many of my new classmates through the orientation process and waved or called out friendly greetings as I jogged past the student center. It seemed only proper to demonstrate a modicum of concern regarding my tardiness even though it was pure pretense.
Nearing the library, located just across from the administration building—which also housed the women’s dorm in its upper floors—my forward motion was suddenly arrested by a sight I will never forget. The term, “came to a screeching halt,” overused and hackneyed as it is, is the only way to truly describe what happened to me. For there, not ten feet away, stood the most beautiful creature my poor, tired eyes had ever seen.
Shoulder-length blonde hair; eyes of cerulean blue set above high cheekbones and made even more stunning by the golden tan dusting her face—a smile that seemed to light up everything around her. I might as well confess that with one glance all thoughts of attending class were waylaid, for I was, in a word...smitten!
I realized, to my horror that I had been staring, my face taking on an expression that fell somewhere in between deranged lunatic and simpleton. This alarming fact was brought to my attention by my brutally honest roommate who had the occasion to be passing by just at that moment—being, as a general rule even more tardy than I—thus, witnessing the entire incident.
Thanking my helpful, if tactless, friend I composed myself and...stood rooted in place! Paralyzed! Immobilized! In the grip of stunned stupefaction! In the meantime, this vision of loveliness was walking away. In the direction of...my class. Could that be?
I finally managed to regain forward mobility and proceeded to stalk her across the campus realizing in the process that she was, indeed, heading directly toward the arts and sciences building which my first period “introduction to philosophy” classroom.
I decided to close the gap so as not to lose sight of her once inside just in case it was not my class that was her final destination. When I say, “close the gap,” I’m talking about sprinting thirty yards to take up a position that was within arm’s reach of her quite lovely back.
I never said I was subtle!
Trailing her into the classroom, I mumbled greetings to a couple of students I knew, stopped by the professor’s desk and found my name on the seating chart, sensing myself nearing cardiac arrest as I realized that we were, as fate would have it, paired at the same table.
Given the perspective afforded by hindsight, I now recall the incident with a mixture of embarrassment and profound sense of awe at my good fortune. I mean, there I was seated right next to the prettiest girl in school. And I didn’t do anything to bring it about.
I was just on my way...to class? Certainly. But in a larger sense, I was on my way to the rest of my life when gracious providence beautifully, blissfully interrupted my progress, knowing that life, as planned, would be incomplete.
That pretty girl became my wife, and we have had many, many adventures over these long years. Her smile can still stop me in my tracks, cause my heart to flutter and render me speechless...no small feat, as my children and close friends will readily attest.
Happy Birthday, baby...my beloved, my bride, my lovely one; owner of my heart; sweetener of my days; wellspring of my joy...I love you today.
Thursday, August 18, 2011
You Have To Dig For It
Ocean Beach, in the Point Loma area of San Diego, California, is a sleepy little bohemian community that by all appearances has been forgotten by time.
Either that or it exists in an alternate universe accessible from Interstate 8 and Sunset Cliffs Blvd.
Which, come to think of it, may not be far from the truth.
Underneath the towering Mexican Fan Palms that march in stately procession down Newport Avenue toward the shoreline, you’ll see an odd collection of street musicians, Deadheads, antique stores, political activists, and artists. There are also tattoo/piercing parlors, beach themed bars, head shops and an International youth hostel whose residents are often indistinguishable from the pervasive homeless population.
What else would you expect from a place that was once known as the Haight-Ashbury of San Diego, right?
Dogs are a big deal in OB.
They even have their own beach.
No, really, they do.
Most summer mornings find the narrow streets and pre-WW II bungalows enveloped in a mantle of fog, which the locals insist on calling a “marine layer.”
I’m not sure why.
Even when I lived there I never knew why.
I mean fog is fog...why not just call it that?
And the “coastal eddy?”
It’s fog, people!
Anyway...
One recent late summer’s morn, my beloved and I left our hotel...well, the owners call it a “hotel,” but dogs are allowed in the rooms on the first floor off the courtyard.
Not exactly what one would expect to see in a “hotel.”
But, we like it.
Hoodies snugly in place, we walked two blocks to our favorite St. Arbuck’s.
The regulars who frequent this particular St. Arbuck’s are about as diverse a clientele as I’ve ever seen.
Businessmen; surfers just in from a sunrise session; golfers stopping in for a cuppa’ Joe before hitting the links; young mothers with toddlers in strollers; street people hoping to get a “refill” in the cup they’d just dug out of the trash somewhere; and rounding out the crowd a smattering of tourists.
There they were...standing in line together and displaying a surprising collegiality for those of such dissimilar social and economic backgrounds.
While my beloved went in search of a table, I joined the queue, sandwiched between a woman in her late fifties (if appearances are to be believed) and a stylishly dressed fellow conducting important business on his cell phone.
The woman was dressed in a white tie-dyed, full length peasant skirt topped by a teal cotton pullover, her long, gray hair hanging down her back in an intricate braid reaching nearly to her waist.
She seemed, well, cranky.
I say this because when it was her turn to order, she spat instructions at the unfortunate barista as if she were an underling.
“I want my coffee EXACTLY 140ยบ! Not one degree more and not one degree less. And I want it fresh. You can give the dregs to these other people in line.” And here she gestured dismissively in our general direction. “And leave the lid off. I want to make sure my instructions have been followed because if they haven’t, I’m not paying for it! Are we clear, missy?”
One of the other baristas screwed up her face and mouthed, “Missy?”
To her credit, the barista taking the order replied evenly, “No problem, ma’am. Will that be all?”
Sadly, it wasn’t.
“No, that won’t be all! I would also like one of your ridiculously overpriced pastries...not that I enjoy them, I just need something on my stomach before I drink the coffee.”
“No problem. What kind would you like?” said the barista sweetly.
“Oh, it doesn't matter. Just pick one and give it to me!”
The barista moved over to the pastry display, picked up the tongs and reached for a cinnamon roll only to have the woman shout, “No! Not that one! Give me that other one. That one. That one right...oh, for Pete’s sake!” At this point she brushed rudely past me and began stabbing her finger against the window of the display case saying, “That one! That...whatever it is right there!”
The barista calmly, patiently placed the banana nut coffee cake into a paper sack and carried it back to the register.
“Anything else, ma’am?”
The woman sampled the coffee, pronounced it to be “adequate,” paid for her order and moved starchily off toward the condiment table.
I raised my brows and said, “Wow!” before asking for a medium coffee with room for cream. “Oh,” I added. “And make sure to include the dregs,” which drew a laugh from the Barista.
As I approached the condiment table I could hear the woman muttering.
She turned purposefully and stalked toward the counter nearly colliding with me in the process and offering no apology.
Apparently the source of her displeasure centered on the fact that there wasn’t any raw sugar and that their coffee was, “Simply undrinkable without raw sugar!”
I dipped my hand into the deep stainless steel container that housed the sugar and felt a layer of packets at the very bottom.
The same barista, with the woman hot on her heels, came over to check out the situation.
I held up three packets and said, “You know, sometimes if you want the sugar...you have to dig for it.”
The Barista stared at me.
I stared back at her.
She said, “Whoa! Just like life.”
I smiled and nodded.
The woman seemed completely baffled. “What?”
The barista looked at her. “It’s like life. Sometimes if you want the sugar...you have to dig for it. Get it?”
The woman stared at us as if we’d just sprouted horns and cleft tongues.
And stared.
And then stared a bit more.
Finally, her fierce countenance softened a little and a small, embarrassed smile fought its way into place.
“It’s been a long time since anyone found any ‘sugar’ in me. A very, very long time. You see, I...well...there’s no excuse for me.” She sighed deeply. “I apologize for my behavior, young lady.”
“Apology accepted.” After a brief pause she continued in an exaggerated whisper, “And you’re right...the pastries are overpriced.”
This brought a genuine laugh from the woman.
It was a great laugh.
I left them talking and made my way over to where my beloved sat.
She looked up from the morning paper, saw me grinning and said, “What?”
“Amazing what you can learn at St. Arbuck’s,” I replied.
“That being...”
“Sometimes if you want the sugar, you have to dig for it.”
She pondered for a few seconds before saying, “Huh. Isn’t that the truth. You just come up with that?”
“Yeah, but I had some help.”
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